Getting repeat dates…
You’ve found the perfect woman (hopefully) and now it’s time for the big moment, time to actually meet her… don’t worry, although this information could be considered outside the realm of online dating, I won’t leave you hanging.
In order to get another date with a woman the current date has to go well. Every date is the catalyst for the next date. In other words, if a woman has the time of her life on this first date OF COURSE she is going to want to go out with you again. On the other hand, if the date is boring to her then the next date proposal will be met with thoughts of:
“Gee, I didn’t have much fun last time I went out with him, why would I want to go out again? I need an excuse FAST….”
Here are some tips to make sure that your first date is one she will always remember (for good reasons ☺) and will make sure that you get the repeat dates:
- arrive on time
- tip well
- end on time (or, better yet, before you want to)
- let her do the talking
- no flowers (embarrassing and awkward until you get to know each other)
- relax and have fun (#1 mistake – clamming up and appearing lifeless, spineless, and boring).
- Be, and do, exciting things
- avoid places where everyone knows you (this will make her feel like an outsider which will NOT make her think you are popular, etc.)
- Be polite (but don’t kiss butt – don’t be afraid to tease but do be chivalrous, this is a sexy combination.)
First impressions stick… so make good ones…
I’ve included here an article that I sent out to my email subscribers not too long ago:
You’ve found the perfect woman (hopefully) and now it’s time for the big moment, time to actually meet her… don’t worry, although this information could be considered outside the realm of online dating, I won’t leave you hanging.
In order to get another date with a woman the current date has to go well. Every date is the catalyst for the next date. In other words, if a woman has the time of her life on this first date OF COURSE she is going to want to go out with you again. On the other hand, if the date is boring to her then the next date proposal will be met with thoughts of:
“Gee, I didn’t have much fun last time I went out with him, why would I want to go out again? I need an excuse FAST….”
Here are some tips to make sure that your first date is one she will always remember (for good reasons ☺) and will make sure that you get the repeat dates:
- arrive on time
- tip well
- end on time (or, better yet, before you want to)
- let her do the talking
- no flowers (embarrassing and awkward until you get to know each other)
- relax and have fun (#1 mistake – clamming up and appearing lifeless, spineless, and boring).
- Be, and do, exciting things
- avoid places where everyone knows you (this will make her feel like an outsider which will NOT make her think you are popular, etc.)
- Be polite (but don’t kiss butt – don’t be afraid to tease but do be chivalrous, this is a sexy combination.)
First impressions stick… so make good ones…
I’ve included here an article that I sent out to my email subscribers not too long ago:
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FIRST IMPRESSIONS STICK… SO LEAVE GREAT ONES
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FIRST IMPRESSIONS STICK… SO LEAVE GREAT ONES
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You know how they say that a first impression
takes 10 seconds to make and 10 years to
change? Well, that's pretty much true.
But, people usually say it in such a negative
way. As if to say "You had better make a good
impression or that woman isn't EVER going to
like you."
But there IS a very positive side to it
also...
In the same way that it takes many good
interactions to change a bad first
impression, it takes a lot of screw-ups and
bad interactions in order to change a *good*
first impression.
As long as you leave a stellar first
impression on a woman you can afford to make
a few mistakes later on.
The unchangeable nature of first impressions
actually works in your favor IF you know
exactly how to make good first impressions.
So, that begs the question... how can you
leave a positive, lasting impression on a
woman that you just met? How can you keep her
from immediately sticking you in the "loser
category" in her mind? How can you project
the kind of exceptional first impression that
will have you seared into her mind as a very
attractive, very dateable man?
I don't know if you've noticed but in these
articles I send out to you I always stress
how important it is that a woman respects
you. If a woman doesn't respect you she
cannot feel attraction for you.
Respect is to women what looks are to men. A
woman dating a man she doesn't respect is
like a man dating a borderline ugly woman.
Yes, it's that important to them.
So, the trick to first impressions, or at
takes 10 seconds to make and 10 years to
change? Well, that's pretty much true.
But, people usually say it in such a negative
way. As if to say "You had better make a good
impression or that woman isn't EVER going to
like you."
But there IS a very positive side to it
also...
In the same way that it takes many good
interactions to change a bad first
impression, it takes a lot of screw-ups and
bad interactions in order to change a *good*
first impression.
As long as you leave a stellar first
impression on a woman you can afford to make
a few mistakes later on.
The unchangeable nature of first impressions
actually works in your favor IF you know
exactly how to make good first impressions.
So, that begs the question... how can you
leave a positive, lasting impression on a
woman that you just met? How can you keep her
from immediately sticking you in the "loser
category" in her mind? How can you project
the kind of exceptional first impression that
will have you seared into her mind as a very
attractive, very dateable man?
I don't know if you've noticed but in these
articles I send out to you I always stress
how important it is that a woman respects
you. If a woman doesn't respect you she
cannot feel attraction for you.
Respect is to women what looks are to men. A
woman dating a man she doesn't respect is
like a man dating a borderline ugly woman.
Yes, it's that important to them.
So, the trick to first impressions, or at
least the biggest barrier to overcome, is
just to make sure that they see you as a
respectable male, someone that they can
admire and lust after.
These types of men are not nervous around
women. They are not timid. They do not treat
them like they are special. They treat
beautiful women just like they treat everyone
else.
The problem most men have with first
impressions is that they meet a woman and
they are intimidated by her beauty. They act
a little more passive, they get a little
nervous, the get a little tongue-tied... all
of which contribute to her getting a bad
first impression.
How do you treat a beautiful woman like she's
not a beautiful woman?
That's hard but not impossible - here's a
little "mind" trick that you can use to make
sure that you leave a perfect impression on a
woman you are just meeting. This technique is
actually being used by all kinds of people
from corporate executives who want to leave a
good impression on their big clients to
people who just want to get ahead socially.
Why?
Because it works. Here it is...
Imagine in your mind that this woman you are
about to talk to is a close old friend that
you haven't seen for years. You've tried to
contact them but couldn't track them down.
Seeing them again would delight you, wouldn't
it?
You wouldn't be nervous. You wouldn't treat
them like they are above you. You wouldn't be
tongue tied.
In fact, your eyes would sparkle, you would
smile, you would be energetic and outgoing.
Next time you are about to meet a woman think
of her as this "old friend."
Using this little technique you can "trick"
your mind so that you feel and, more
importantly, act completely relaxed so that
you will leave a great first impression that
will, hopefully, stick around for "10 years."
just to make sure that they see you as a
respectable male, someone that they can
admire and lust after.
These types of men are not nervous around
women. They are not timid. They do not treat
them like they are special. They treat
beautiful women just like they treat everyone
else.
The problem most men have with first
impressions is that they meet a woman and
they are intimidated by her beauty. They act
a little more passive, they get a little
nervous, the get a little tongue-tied... all
of which contribute to her getting a bad
first impression.
How do you treat a beautiful woman like she's
not a beautiful woman?
That's hard but not impossible - here's a
little "mind" trick that you can use to make
sure that you leave a perfect impression on a
woman you are just meeting. This technique is
actually being used by all kinds of people
from corporate executives who want to leave a
good impression on their big clients to
people who just want to get ahead socially.
Why?
Because it works. Here it is...
Imagine in your mind that this woman you are
about to talk to is a close old friend that
you haven't seen for years. You've tried to
contact them but couldn't track them down.
Seeing them again would delight you, wouldn't
it?
You wouldn't be nervous. You wouldn't treat
them like they are above you. You wouldn't be
tongue tied.
In fact, your eyes would sparkle, you would
smile, you would be energetic and outgoing.
Next time you are about to meet a woman think
of her as this "old friend."
Using this little technique you can "trick"
your mind so that you feel and, more
importantly, act completely relaxed so that
you will leave a great first impression that
will, hopefully, stick around for "10 years."
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